The Lost Art Of Sisterhood

We don’t always realise the blessings we forfeit when we disregard sisterhood. In a culture where it has become the norm to use derogatory terms to describe one another, to gossip, to slander and to tear each other down; sisterhood has become somewhat of a lost art. We don’t know how to build healthy, lasting relationships with other women – that’s a problem.

The definition of “sisterhood”, as defined by the Merriam Webster online dictionary:

1 a : the state of being a sister; b : sisterly relationship

2 : a community or society of sisters; especially : a society of women in a religious order

3 : the solidarity of women based on shared conditions, experiences, or concerns

Do we realise what a powerful force we could be, if only we would fight alongside one another instead of against one another? We have so much in common. We face the same battles, share similar experiences and concerns. We would get so much more done for the Kingdom of God and for the greater good of women, if we would only realise that we are much stronger together than we are divided – especially in a world that is so cruel to women. We face tough enough battles as it is – abuse, rape, inequality – why do we choose to make things harder for one another?

Matthew Arnold; British Poet & Philosopher says:

If ever there comes a time when the women of the world come together purely and simply for the benefit of mankind, it will be a force such as this world has never seen.

Switch it up a bit and it’s the perfect saying for God fearing, purpose-filled women in this season:

If ever there comes a time when the daughters of God come together purely and simply for the glory of their Lord, it will be a force such as this world has never seen.

God has placed within His daughters the ability to encourage, uplift and influence one another to become all that He has created us to be. To support one another, to bring out the best in one another, to help one another reach their full potential. Instead, we sit with a culture of women that gossip, belittle one another, are jealous and envious and pull one another down. Why is that? Simply because a woman who is not secure in who God made her, can never uplift her fellow sister. If she struggles to like herself, how can she like the next woman? How we treat other people serves as a mirror-image of how we see ourselves; and jealousy, gossip, backstabbing, bullying, slandering and name-calling are all clear indications of deep-rooted insecurities that can only be healed by God. The antidote for a culture of women that bully, is a culture of women that point them to Christ by loving them like God and showing them their worth. Only once a woman gets to the point where she undoubtedly knows that she is in a league of her own, fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God, in competition with no-one and that God has a unique plan for her life; can she begin to love her fellow sister with a genuine, Christ-like love. Girls, we are called to so much more than what society has prescribed for us, and within us God has placed the ability to change the world, one sister at a time – starting with ourselves.

See another woman succeeding? Congratulate her without doubting your own potential. See another woman moving forward in life? Be genuinely happy for her without questioning things in your own life. It’s absolutely possible to celebrate another woman’s accomplishments and appreciate her strengths without being jealous of her, questioning ourselves or making comparisons. Compliment other women, support their businesses, attend their events. Be a friend, truly be a friend, and God will bless you by placing women in your life that will be your sisters, accountability partners, confidants, supporters and prayer warriors. So often we complain that we can’t find true friends, but we don’t think of the possibility that some of the issues we have in our relationships with other women are just a manifestation of seeds we’ve sown against ourselves by doing things to other women we wouldn’t like done to us.

Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity! It is like the precious ointment upon the head, that ran down upon the beard, even Aaron’s beard: that went down to the skirts of his garments; As the dew of Hermon, and as the dew that descended upon the mountains of Zion: for there the Lord commanded the blessing, even life for evermore.

– Psalm 133 v 1-3

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